This was a discussion topic in my website ZMIVE.com. This person was saying how it’s their first year of college (oh boy) and is just now starting to think about who she really is, what she likes and dislikes because she felt like in high school she was just going with the flow of what was cool. She doesn’t want to get sucked back into that and is asking how to be herself. Pretty heavy stuff if you ask me.
Well I can totally relate to that question because there came a point for me too where I didn’t like who I had become and had to change everything, but didn’t know where to start and was scared shitless. In hindsight I see it’s just all part of the process of growth. You get into a routine, you become best at the routine and then it doesn’t work anymore and you must adapt in order to remain sane. How do you find that new routine? Well for me I put myself out there to new experiences. I met new people, went to new places, tried new things and slowly but surely I developed my life again and I was once again comfortable in this new lifestyle. That’s definitely a short version, but all I’m saying is that you got to put yourself out there to get anything life. Sticking to what you know will kill you inside, or at least me.
Does anyone have experience with this? How do you find yourself or stick to your true self?
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Much Love,
Mike Walzman
4 Comments
December 4, 2008 at 11:08 pm
I feel like I too am trying to figure out part of who I am or am becoming. It’s just hard because I want to try so many things and do so much that it all just crumbles together and I end up doing nothing. Your comment on my last blog made me think alot too. About how its up to us in choosing how long we want to wait to actually do something. So I guess I have a lot to think about. Thanks for the encouraging words : )
December 4, 2008 at 11:31 pm
Your very welcome : )
December 5, 2008 at 5:24 am
Self discovery…what and interesting topic. I haven’t traveled the same road as you. I have never done drugs and I was really only a social drinker. My struggles were mental. I suffered from anxiety and depression since early high school. I have had hours of counseling and during grad school I decided to take anti-depression meds. It wasn’t a decision I took lightly. My doctor and I talked long and hard about all of my options and after much thought I agreed the I needed more help than counseling could provide. In 2005 I decided, with my doctor’s supervision, to end the medicine. And as we get ready to enter 2009, things are going good for me mentally and emotionally.
As for self discovery, I think it is a life-long event. It seems like I am always learning more and more about myself. I think that you will never completely know who you are until you reach the end of the journey. And I don’t plan for my journey to end for many MANY more years!
Who you are changes as the years go by. I can say that at 31 I am not the same person I was at 21 or even 27. Who I am changes as I learn more and experience more. Who you are evolves.
I don’t search for who I am anymore. Who I am is revealed to me as I go along. All of this isn’t to say that we don’t have to be open to change. Change is part of the evolution! I also try not to label myself because those labels are bound to change. I am talking about labels that are specific like: democrat, republican, Baptist, radical, tree-hugger! I am who I am and it is constantly in flux. The one label that I happily accept it Mom. I will now and forever be a mom and I am okay with that!
December 5, 2008 at 9:24 am
“I don’t search for who I am anymore. Who I am is revealed to me as I go along” Wow, I love that. That’s going on my quote of the day. : )